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Sunday, 10 March 2013

Food for thought



International Women's Day just passed, and not too surprisingly it brought on several conversations for both of us around sex, sexual assault and rape culture within our groups of friends.

Just to quickly define it for those that may not be familiar, rape culture is the way the media and society make rape out to seem like a casual occurrence. They blame the survivor (what was she wearing, was she drinking, what did she do to deserve it?) 

We wanted to share and hear your opinions. Here's an awesome quote from Kate Harding, an author and a blogger who wrote a message to many men out there basically describing why the things we say and do on a regular basis encourage behaviours that make rape acceptable. 

" ‘Cause the thing is, you and the guys you hang out with may not really mean anything by it when you talk about crazy bitches and dumb sluts and heh-heh-I’d-hit-that and you just can’t reason with them and you can’t live with ‘em can’t shoot ‘em and she’s obviously only dressed like that because she wants to get laid and if they can’t stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen and if they can’t play by the rules they don’t belong here and if they can’t take a little teasing they should quit and heh heh they’re only good for fucking and cleaning and they’re not fit to be leaders and they’re too emotional to run a business and they just want to get their hands on our money and if they’d just stop overreacting and telling themselves they’re victims they’d realize they actually have all the power in this society and white men aren’t even allowed to do anything anymore and and and…
I get that you don’t really mean that shit. I get that you’re just talking out your ass.
But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women–to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn’t know which one he was.
And that guy? Thought you were on his side."

If you're interested in checking out the whole article you can find it here:
http://kateharding.net/2008/09/24/from-the-archives-on-being-a-no-name-blogger-using-her-real-name/